Now that you are finished writing your “what sucks about my life list”, its time to write the “my kick ass life” list. This is the one that addresses everything you wish your life was, but isn’t. Here, you will write all those things you’ve imagined doing, if only you had the time, money and energy.
Let me be clear, this is not just a typical bucket list that only includes lofty goals like moving to another country or jumping out of an airplane. Those goals might make an appearance on this list, but you will also want to include smaller ambitions that will concern your day to day life. Things that you could change immediately.
Start off by reviewing your sucky life list and begin problem solving. Imagine this is your buddy’s list and you are going to save the day and fix all of his problems. Not going outside enough? Go on daily walks. Feeling rushed in the mornings? Prep the coffee and do the dishes in the evenings to make for a calm start to the day. These solutions should make up the beginning of your kick ass life list.
The next step is to take a moment to imagine what you want your life to look like and then start writing down everything that comes to mind (leave a blank line or two under each idea). Here are some questions to get you thinking (don’t feel like you have to actually answer these, they are just to help get the ball rolling if you feel stuck):
- Where do you see yourself living? Apartment in the city, cabin in the woods, big house in the suburbs, your van, bouncing from hostel to hostel, on a farm?
- How would you make money? Would you be working from home or in an office with coworkers? What would your job be?
- Does imagining yourself training for a marathon excite or bore you?
- Do you want to live within walking distance to your in laws?
- Do you prefer to go out for meals or would you prefer to eat at home?
- Where do you want to vacation?
- What kinds of things do you want to do with your kids on the weekends?
- What time would you like to start and end your work day?
- Would you prefer making your coffee at home or buying a cup at your local cafe?
- Do you want to have sex more often?
- Go on date nights?
- Start your own business?
- What kind of parent do you want to be?
- Who do you want to interact with on a daily basis?
- Do you want to join a local sports league?
- What kind of friends do you want to spend time with? Describe your ideal friend and their interests.
- Do you wish you had a smaller home that is easier to maintain?
- Where are your kids going to school?
- What addictions do you want to quit?
- Do you want to move so you are closer to family?
- Do you want to eat healthier meals?
- What hobbies would you explore? Think back to high school or your childhood, what did you do with your free time? What were your high school electives?
- Do you want to be in your yard, working in your garden?
When you are finished, use the blank lines below each kick ass idea to get even more specific. Go on more walks? Go on a walk through the neighborhood every day after dinner. Want to quit your job? Work on resume and research job openings over the weekend. Hoping to eat out less? Meal plan and shop for groceries every Sunday. Writing exactly how these goals would look in your day to day life is an integral part of implementing change.
Now, you have two very powerful lists at your fingertips. Check out “Make a Change, Part III: Make Room For Change” to learn how to set these ideas into motion.